How a man looks at a woman he loves: 9 unmissable signs - Love Connection (2023)

There are many signs — verbal and non-verbal — that a man gives off when he’s deeply in love with a woman.

Some are obvious and others are harder to decipher, but one, in particular, stands out — the way he looks at you.

Whether it’s butterflies from seductive eye-contact from across the room or gazing into the eyes of a loved one, there’s more to locking eyes than many of us realize.

So regardless of how long you’ve been together, or if there’s a guy you think is in love with you but hasn’t confessed it yet, we’re going to cover everything on how a man looks at a woman he loves.

But before we get into the juicy details, let’s get a bit of background information.

What happens when we make eye contact and how does it lead to love?

What’s the science behind eye contact and love?

I recently read an article in the New York Times, about a woman and a man who fell in love after re-enacting a study formed by Dr. Aron, a psychologist who essentially formed love between two people in his lab.

If you’re thinking, “What, how is that even possible?”, don’t worry, I thought the same.

But stick with me here…

Dr. Aron wanted to find out whether two people could fall in love and form interpersonal relationships within a short space of time. He had strangers ask each other a series of questions (36 to be precise), and with each question, the conversation became more intimate and intense.

Finally, each “couple” in the experiment ended by staring into each other’s eyes for exactly four minutes.

The result?

Two participants were married six months later. Others, like the couple I mention from the New York Times, carried out a similar version of the experiment, and have fallen in love too.

And if that wasn’t impressive enough?

Other similar studies have shown that feelings of passion and love became prevalent after just two minutes of mutual gaze.

So what’s the link between eye contact and love?

Psychologist Linda Jackson explains that

“Maintaining eye contact creates a calming, connected state of being that, after 30 to 60 seconds, triggers oxytocin”.

This explains a lot — oxytocin, alongside dopamine are named the “love hormones” because they occur during physical intimacy such as hugging or having sex, and they help us form trusting relationships.

Another fascinating study found that when these “love hormones” are released, it causes our pupils to dilate — this makes us appear more approachable, trustworthy and increases our attractiveness to our partner.

So what does this tell us?

Well, every time your partner stares deeply into your eyes, he’s not simply admiring the color of them. A lot more is happening under the surface and it’s these natural chemical reactions that can make us fall in love, or indeed strengthen the love we already have.

Zick Rubin, a Harvard psychologist, found that couples who remained passionately in love, even after years together, maintained eye contact 75% of the time when they spoke (a considerable amount more than the average 30-60% of the time).

Now we’ve covered the facts — there’s no question that eye-contact and the way we look at our loved ones are linked with the love and affection we feel.

So how does a man look at a woman he loves?

Let’s get straight into these telling signs:

You know he’s in love if he….

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1) He locks eyes with you

When a man is in love, he won’t be able to help but look you directly in the eye when he speaks.

Long gone are the nerves that might have made him look away before, now he’s comfortable with you and you’ll see this through his eye-contact. Regardless of what he’s doing, even if the most thrilling match of his life is on TV, if you ask him a question, he’ll tear his eyes away enough to look at you when he replies.

This shows that he not only loves you but respects you too.

We often associate the two — someone who fails to meet our eyes or even look up when we speak is considered rude and it gives the impression that they’re not interested in us or what we have to say.

So if he consistently looks you in the eye, even when he’s busy or distracted, count yourself lucky to have a man who so obviously respects and cares for you.

2) He smiles when he looks at you

If your man smiles at you when he looks over it means one thing — you make him happy!

That feeling of being on cloud nine never leaves when he’s with you, and for that reason, he can’t stop smiling.

You might be busying yourself in the kitchen or tucked up in bed reading a book and he’d still find reasons to smile when he sees you. This type of love is beautiful and it’s clear that he takes a lot of comfort and happiness from being around you. And, it’s natural to smile more when we’re in love.

Remember those “love hormones” we mentioned earlier?

When you smile, dopamine is released, alongside serotonin. Now, serotonin acts as a mild antidepressant, whilst the rest of the endorphins released to fight off stress and make you feel good.

So, there’s no mystery behind why he smiles when he looks at you — he’s in love and it makes him feel good (not to mention the positive effect it has on you, too).

3) He maintains prolonged eye contact

As we’ve covered, maintaining eye contact for a while has the power to make people fall in love and to keep that love going.

So, it’s only natural that when he stares into your eyes for minutes on end, he’s strengthening the love you share (out of instinct rather than choice).

Here’s the thing:

When a guy looks deep into your eyes, there’s a whole range of thoughts crossing his mind but he’s not always aware that he’s doing so.

Humans are naturally drawn to look at things we find visually appealing and to people that we love and hold affection for, which explains why he can’t take his eyes off of you.

Instincts are a powerful driver of human behavior, especially for men when it comes to relationships.

One of the most powerful instincts men have is the hero instinct.

If you haven’t heard of the hero instinct before, it’s a new concept in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.

Prolonged eye contact is a surefire sign that you’ve triggered this instinct in him.

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4) He stares at you when you’re not looking

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When a man looks at a woman he loves, he’ll do it whether you realize it or not.

We often think this only happens in the beginning, in the courtship stages. You’re on your first date and his eyes follow you as you walk to the ladies’ room. We assume this is out of attraction, and in the beginning, it is.

But what happens when you’ve been together for a while and he still finds any reason to look at you?


Quite simply, he’s appreciating what he has.

His feelings are strong, he knows he’s got a good thing going on, and just the sight of you makes him stop to remember how fortunate he is, how fortunate you both are, to have each other.

5) He notices the details of your face and body

Many women joke about the fact that men aren’t very observant when it comes to detail.

I’ve spent a lifetime surrounded by family members and friends (male) who never noticed that new haircut, piercing, item of clothing, new phone, you name it.

It’s not that they didn’t care, they just simply weren’t paying attention. Those changes didn’t catch their eye and that’s okay.

But a man in love will take notice of these things.


Because he’s not just looking at you, he’s studying you. He’s taking in everything about you, from the tiny mole on your back to the way your eyes crease when you smile.

So, when you make even the smallest change, he’ll see it straight away.

6) He looks at you compassionately when you’re hurt

Sometimes a look can convey more than words can.

Have you ever had a rough day, and I mean the type of rough day where all you want to do is curl up under the duvet and cry? Unfortunately, we all have them from time to time.

But have you ever had someone take one look at you, understand the pain you’re in, and their body language, touch, caring facial expressions, are all directed at comforting you?

Now, this happens early on in our lives with our parents. A mother sees her child fall over and within a minute she’s wrapped them up and cuddled them back to happiness. There’s lots of eye contact and physical touch.

A father comforting his daughter after her first heartbreak, even without words, can make her feel safe and calm. If he doesn’t look her in the eye when he’s telling her everything will be okay, she probably wouldn’t believe him.

The same happens when you’re in love.

You might notice him look at you with concern when you’re sad or ill, his eyes reflecting the care and sympathy he feels for you. He’ll look over at you often to check that you’re okay.

Recently, my grandmother (in-law) spent a few weeks in hospital — it was very touch-and-go for a while and naturally we were all worried.

Thankfully, she recovered, and once back home, grandpa was in full swing. Caring for her every need, by her side day and night. And the one thing he never did was take his eyes off her.

You might say it’s out of fear, worry, or preoccupation because of her health scare, and part of it is, but there’s also an intense look of deep, unconditional love that he has reserved just for her.

7) He looks at you as if you’ve known each other for ages

Familiarity – That strange feeling of having known someone for a long time when you actually just met.

It’s not something we can easily pinpoint, but researchers think they’ve found the answer to this abiding mystery of our lives.

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8) He looks at you differently from other people

Between loving couples, there are certain “looks” reserved for each other, which convey hidden messages.

You know the type when the annoying neighbor pops around and your partner gives you that look from across the room. You instantly know what he’s thinking and he’s read your response just from your eyes.

Or when your whacky aunt is sharing her latest conspiracy theory and you both exchange a look whilst holding back your laughter.

Where would we be without these silent forms of communication? They certainly make it easier to get by in certain situations.

The truth is:

Over time, you will have developed non-verbal cues of communication. It’s bound to happen, especially when you live with someone and get to know them inside out.

Not only does it allow you to say the things you’re both thinking without anyone else noticing but it evokes feel-good feelings. You have this secret method of communication that shows how well you know and understand each other.

9) He can’t help but admire you even when you look your worst

Another sign of love is when he can’t keep his eyes off you even when you look terrible. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been up puking with morning sickness for hours or you’ve had an adult acne breakout.

A man in love sees through all those layers right down to the person standing in front of him, who he loves regardless of her appearance.

After all, isn’t that what love is about?

If it was based solely on attraction, not many people would stay in love for long.

So if he looks at you with affection, even when you’re at your worst, it’s clear that he loves you deeply and doesn’t care whether you look good or not.

By now, you’ll know for sure how much he loves you if he looks at you in these ways. The signs above are all ones which you can look out for.

But, it’s also important to note other non-verbal cues which also give away his love and affection…

He’ll also show love with his body language

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Having strong eye contact is just one of the many ways a man will show his feelings. And when it comes to love, there are a few other signs to look out for:

1) He can’t keep his hands off you

If a man is in love, he’ll struggle to keep his hands to himself. But I don’t just mean sexually.

He’ll want to touch you all the time, whether it’s holding your hand, putting his arm around you, or even just resting his body against yours as you sit side by side.

The truth is:

Touch is important in many ways — it makes people feel safe, comforted, and it’s a great way to express love without having to find the right words.

2) He mirrors your body language

Mirroring is when he copies your movements, speech, or facial expressions, without realizing it.

You rest your elbow on the table, he does the same. You fold your arms, a few minutes later he’s folded his. You can test this one by consciously performing an action, and seeing whether he imitates it.

Or use a word frequently that he doesn’t normally use and see if he starts adopting it into his conversations.

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So why do people mirror those they love?

Well, it’s believed that mirroring makes us more likable. It makes us appear more empathetic to the person we’re talking to and builds trust. It’s basically like saying, “Hey, I’m similar to you. We can get along”.

This forms trust and puts people at ease. It’s another body-language sign that gives away our true feelings about someone without us being aware of it.

3) He always positions himself facing you

Facing you achieves two things:

He can look at you properly, and as we’ve covered, how a man looks at a woman he loves shows a lot.

And secondly, he can be open to you. He’s showing that he trusts you and that you have his full, undivided attention.

If he was sitting to the side of you, or slightly behind or in front, there wouldn’t be the same level of interaction and intimacy that’s felt when someone sits directly opposite.

But, if he does find himself sitting alongside you, he’ll show his love by putting his arm around you or resting his hand on your leg.

4) He’s always close by

Staying nearby is another subtle sign that a man is in love — he never wants there to be too much distance between you.

You might find he sits right next to you, legs touching or he puts his things in your personal space, like his phone or his drink — this way he naturally gets to stay close to you.

And, what do you know, when he’s close by, he can also maintain that important eye contact and connection, so it works both ways.

Final thoughts

When we put together the facts, the psychology, and the science behind eye contact and love, it’s obvious that there’s a connection.

And as if that wasn’t interesting enough?

When we add in all the stuff that can’t be explained, the subtle signals we give with just a glance, butterflies in our stomach, how a look can stay with us replaying in our minds, it all shows that so much love and emotion can be conveyed.

All of which is great news for you if your partner ticked some of the boxes above.

So, regardless of whether he’s a romantic who professes his love daily or more reserved with his affection, the way he looks at you will give it away, every time. Just don’t forget to look out for those subtle signs.

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How does a man look at you if he loves you? ›

If a man is in love with you, he tends to hold eye contact or stare at you for longer. Since eye contact between two people who are in love can be intense, some men may feel vulnerable when caught in this gaze.

What are the 3 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you? ›

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  • He shows interest in you. ...
  • He behaves like a gentleman. ...
  • He always sneaks a glance at you. ...
  • He maintains eye contact.
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Can you see love in someones eyes? ›

Actually, science has proven it so! Certain chemicals (or endorphins) that produce the emotion of love can be emitted through emotions expressed in the eyes. There are physiological changes in the eyes that occur when love is expressed between two individuals.

What is the look of love in a man's eyes? ›

What is the look of love? In a man's eyes, it can be a sparkle, a glimmer, or even the beautiful shine that is there when he looks at you in admiration. Staring at someone intensely can often mean that he has feelings for you.

How a man shows love without saying it? ›

For example, he holds your hand, has his arms around you, hugs you, always sit close to you, etc. 2- He puts a lot of efforts to make you feel loved. He brings random gifts for you, sings a song for you on a special day, makes time to talk to you anyhow, makes sudden plans, etc. 3- He always listens to you properly.

How does someone look at you when they're in love? ›

“Eye contact is an intimate and vulnerable act, so intense eye contact can be very meaningful,” says Fraley. “Deep eye contact, or holding your gaze for at least four seconds, may indicate feelings of love.” Bonus points if they smile in your presence too.

What makes a man feel connected to a woman? ›

Men Need Love and Affection

In plain language: Men often feel most loved by the women in their lives when their partners hug them, kiss them, smile at them, and explicitly offer gratitude, praise, and words of affection. Men also feel loved and connected through sexuality, often to a greater degree than women do.

How do you know if a man has deep feelings for you? ›

You know a man has feelings for you when he slowly tries to include you in his plans. It's no longer about hanging out or having a date. You'll notice how much he tries to invite you into his world. You'll meet his friends, family, even workmates.

What are signs of true love between a man a woman? ›

The signs of true love in a relationship include security, respect, and understanding. In fact, true love in its real sense involves how you act in a relationship with someone. The signs of true love between a man and a woman are about meeting each other's expectations, respect, and care.

Can you tell by someone's eyes if they are attracted to you? ›

Watch for Their Eye Gaze

Like touch, eye contact triggers the release of oxytocin. When someone is attracted to you, they subconsciously will try engaging in lots of mutual eye contact. They do this to feel closer to you, and because they are interested in you and what you are saying.

How do eyes reveal love? ›

Dilated Pupils When In Love

According to The Chicago Tribune, research by the University of Chicago reveals that if someone is looking at something or someone they like, their pupils will dilate without them even realising!

Do eyes reveal feelings? ›

Your eyes communicate much more than you may realize, in fact they play a huge role in your non-verbal communication. Consciously or not, the way you move your eyes, look at someone, blink or make eye contact can say a lot about what you are thinking and feeling.

What body language shows a guy in love? ›

Look for signs like sustained eye contact and dilated pupils. Typically, this means that someone has feelings for you. Watch for subconscious grooming, like when he touches his hair or fixes his tie. Pay attention to whether or not he mirrors your own body language.

What eyes do men find attractive? ›

When broken down by gender, men ranked gray, blue, and green eyes as the most attractive, while women said they were most attracted to green, hazel, and gray eyes. Despite brown eyes ranking at the bottom of our perceived attraction scale, approximately 79% of the world's population sports melanin-rich brown eyes.

When a man stares at a woman intensely? ›

When a guy stares into your eyes and doesn't look away, he may be trying to size you up. Intently staring can be a good thing and might mean that he likes what he sees. Research indicates that in many cases of prolonged eye contact, both parties are interested in each other or maybe aroused.

How do you touch a man emotionally? ›

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  2. The importance of physical touch.
  3. Remain a mystery.
  4. Take an interest in his life.
  5. Take an interest in his hobbies.
  6. Have an affirming attitude.
  7. Show respect.
  8. Surprise him.
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What are the signs a guy doesn't love you? ›

He is no longer affectionate with you, physically or verbally. He no longer makes sweet or romantic gestures toward you. He doesn't say "I love you" anymore. He still says "I love you," but something about it feels hollow or forced, like he's just going through the motions.

What do eyes do when they see someone they love? ›

For starters, oxytocin and dopamine — the “love hormones” — have an effect on pupil size. Your brain gets a boost of these chemicals when you're sexually or romantically attracted to someone. This surge in hormones appears to make your pupils dilate. Dilation may also be related to the biological need to reproduce.

What happens to your body when you see someone you love? ›

High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction. These chemicals make us giddy, energetic, and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia – which means you actually can be so “in love” that you can't eat and can't sleep.

Why does he look me in the eyes when we make love? ›

Some studies show that intense eye contact can actually stimulate sexual arousal. People like feeling seen and understood. Intense or prolonged eye contact helps people feel seen and can make them feel confident and even aroused. Not only can eye contact heat things up, but it can also make sex more intimate.

What are the 5 bonding stages for a man? ›

Appreciation, infatuation, attraction, impression, and conviction are the 5 bonding stages for a man.

How does a man get emotionally attached to you? ›

Another factor that makes a man emotionally attached is when you become vulnerable with them. This subtly nudges the guy to become vulnerable, making him emotionally attached in the long run. Also, another answer to what makes men emotionally attached is when you show gratitude.

What makes a man madly in love with a woman? ›

Sharing Core Values. Intelligence, sense of humor, compassion, kindness, and loyalty are few universally appealing qualities. Men feel deeply attracted to women who have the traits they appreciate and cherish.

How does a man act when he is deeply in love with you? ›

He will pay attention to your wants and needs and make an effort to give it to you. He listens to your requests, tries to accommodate your wishes, and does things you say will make you happy. And he does it happily because he wants to make you happy.

How does a man act when he falls deeply in love? ›

They will start to obsess over giving her presents, taking her out to nice places, and just trying to make her smile. So, if you notice that he's amping up trips to fine dining establishments, giving you flowers, or doing similar things, he's probably in love.

Do men feel love intensely? ›

In many ways, men fall in love much like women. The early stages can involve a distracting, even obsessive infatuation, which slowly deepens into trust, compassion, and deep attachment. Men may also fall in love quickly and feel a strong need for affection from their partners.

What kind of woman do guys fall in love with? ›

Women who know what they want in a partner and know who they are as a lover are the type of women men fall in love with. “What makes a man fall in love really comes down to a deeply emotional connection. When you feel comfortable with someone who is open and vulnerable, you are more likely to fall in love.

What does true love feel like for a man? ›

True Love Feels Like Acceptance

They enjoy seeing you as much as you enjoy seeing them. True love feels like looking at the other, and knowing that they are really looking back at you, not a projection of the person they think you should be.

What is intense attraction to someone? ›

Lust. This describes intense feelings of passion, desire, affection, or attraction toward someone.

How do you know you have chemistry with someone? ›

Key Takeaways. The instant attraction and that ”spark” you feel with someone is a tell-tale sign of chemistry between you two. If you find yourself making intense eye contact, flirting, and always smiling at someone, you probably have good chemistry with them.

What is an intimate gaze? ›

The Intimate Gaze

In close encounters it is the triangular area between the eyes and the chest or breasts and for distant gazing from the eyes to the crotch. Men and women use this gaze to show interest in each other and those who are interested will return the gaze.

Do guys look you in the eye when they like you? ›

Eye contact will tell you a lot. If a guy is into you, he's going to try to make eye contact with you. This is because he's interested in you and what you have to say. Behavioral investigator Vanessa Van Edwards from Science of People writes, "Like touch, eye contact triggers the release of oxytocin.

Can someone feel you looking at them? ›

Some studies have found that up to 94% of people report that they have experienced the feeling of eyes upon them and turned around to find out they were indeed being watched.

What do emotionless eyes look like? ›

The various suggested characteristics of “psychopath eyes” seem to echo the general belief that people with ASPD have no emotions to show. These descriptions include: dead, flat, or reptilian-like eyes. very dark irises, or eyes that appear black.

How do you tell if someone is thinking about you? ›

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  • Unexpected emotions. ...
  • Eye twitching. ...
  • White feather sign. ...
  • Dreams about them. ...
  • Goosebumps. ...
  • A butterfly perches on you. ...
  • Your cheeks flush. ...
  • Mid-meal discomfort.
Mar 7, 2023

Can you tell someone loves you by how they look at you? ›

They look at you ... a lot

Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin found a correlation between eye contact and love. In his study, couples deeply in love look at one another 75% of the time while talking, while people engaged in conversation only look at each other about 30-60% of the time.

How do guys act when they are in love? ›

When he's falling in love, everything is likely to become about her. He can't stop thinking about her and would rather be spending time with her than doing anything else. He may feel scared about the relationship and where it's headed, or he might just have a comfortable feeling about the entire thing.

What do people's eyes do when they look at someone they love? ›

For starters, oxytocin and dopamine — the “love hormones” — have an effect on pupil size. Your brain gets a boost of these chemicals when you're sexually or romantically attracted to someone. This surge in hormones appears to make your pupils dilate.

How do you know if a guy has strong feelings for you? ›

One of the signs he has strong feelings for you is when he constantly tries to communicate with you. He checks on you by texting or calling you. He would even chat or text you when he wakes up, letting you know that you're the first one he thinks about upon waking up.

What do men do when they really love you? ›

  • He's generous with food. ...
  • He'll pamper himself with you. ...
  • He usually doesn't freak out, even when you think he will. ...
  • He fawns over your naked body. ...
  • He remembers things big and small. ...
  • He stares at you. ...
  • He fills his family in on the details of your life. ...
  • He'll tell you as much.
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